Wednesday, May 23, 2012

and in between it's never as it seems.



Silence around here means that I'm currently struggling a bit to find the balance between motherhood & work. You should see how chaotic my desk is (partly because I'm avoiding the looming stack of recently acquired scary medical bills).

If only it were all black & white... but I'll figure it out soon enough. In the meantime I've been: enjoying work that requires more hand skills and less of the computer, turning on some really good music, and getting as much done as possible during the little one's naptimes.

23 comments:

  1. I love these pictures (it must be my true love for all things black and white.)

    I'm currently trying to figure out how on earth I'll put a new baby in the hands of another all day come the beginning of next year. I'm jealous that you have a skill that allows you to work from home. Man, I really need to find something that will do the trick.. (isn't this all women's quest?)

    Oh, and those medical bills are killer already! Graham said in exasperated tone the other day.. "What's the point of even having insurance?" None. I swear, the system is ridiculous. Thousands and thousands of dollars after insurance is just wrong. Whoa.. can you tell it's one of those days? Sorry to word vomit all over this.

    Long story short, I hope you find a happy balance that suits you and your family well. I'm using you as my model. :)

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    1. yeah, it's seriously ridiculous. seems like every day i get a new bill. and apparently my maternity deductible is in addition to my personal medical deductible AND a deductible for margo PLUS more... it's a total nightmare. there goes our life savings! ;)

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  2. ahh, love the new track from beach house. not sure if i am crazy about the new album yet! nothing has been as good to me as their album, devotion.

    it is exciting that your life is taking a new turn! i can't wait to see where it leads you

    xo
    sami

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  3. the balance will come (sort of). new babies require a lot of time and love. you'll hit a groove soon enough. sounds like you are enjoying yourself and i'm so happy for you guys. love that chalkboard and your hand lettering is beautiful!

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  4. Margo is beautiful and so are your pictures! I love black and white. One day I want a guest room that is all black and white. The scissors are cool too! :)

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  5. i still struggle with juggling the motherhood/work balance. sometimes i want to work more, mostly i want to work less and always i have a harder time saying no than yes. :)

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  6. I love your photo styling! And I'm sorry for medical bills. It took us a year to pay for them all. You'd think they'd give you some sort of discount for having a beautiful baby...

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  7. The balance will come, someway, some day. At least I hope so too *grin* Love these shots, they are beautiful.

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  8. Wow, it's such an eye opener for me, I'm so sorry you are having all these medical bills. I am SO eternally grateful for our public health system over here. I wouldn't be able to afford to have a baby if I had to pay to see the doctor.
    It sounds as though you are getting there with doing the work during naptimes, you are such a lovely role model, as Kate said earlier!

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  9. agree with the others above, balance will come. Balance might mean a serious burst or creativity 1 week then 1 week of complete exhaustion, but you will figure it out :) the black and white is lovely!

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  10. finding balance can be hard sometimes. best wishes as you try to find balance with your new lifestyle;)

    also, i love all of the black and white in these photos.

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  11. I want to come over and see said projects. I am itching to paint again- always a little wary of the fumes the oils emit though.

    And I am still trying to find a balance. I think it comes and goes- sometimes I feel really good about the way I spend my time, sometimes it feels like I am losing my mind.

    I am a little crazy though, so that is normal. :)

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  12. these are my favorite photos you have ever posted. praying that you are able to reach the balance (in both regards :) very soon.

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  13. listening to the great music as we speak. in love! and these photographs are just lovely! sometimes black and white seems safe in lofe, but i promise a bit of color is never scary! you'll get through those stacks of bills in no time. enjoy all your free time with work. do all the things you love ;)
    xo TJ

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  14. i have solved the working-mother-balance-problem by remembering these things:

    1. balance does not exist. it is a myth.

    because,

    2. family comes first, especially babies, always.

    once i realized that, i never had to stress about work stuff. if i couldn't work and be there (and by "be there" i mean be happy, calm, loving, and unfrazzled) for my family on a certain day, for a certain hour, or even a minute, then i just set the work aside and knew it would still be there when i got back. it's like you are juggling a lot of balls. a work ball, a church volunteer ball, a wife ball, a mother ball, and probably some more (like a reader-of-sisiter's-work-in-progress-novel-ball). and you really can't juggle all of them all the time without dropping one or two a few times. and some of those balls? they're rubber. they'll bounce right back up if you drop them. sometimes you can even put some of those balls in a box on a shelf for as long as you need to. but some of those balls are delicate and thin and made of glass. those balls you cannot drop.

    i love this reminder from julie beck: wise mothers who know are selective about their own activities and involvement to conserve their limited strength in order to maximize their influence where it matters most.

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    1. Um Rachel I am printing this out and taping it to my wall. All my life, all the time I am struggling to find balance and it doesn't exist!
      I needed to hear this, so thanks for posting it and thanks Angela for directing me back here to read it.

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    2. amen. this is fantastic and needs to be plastered in 200 font bold lettering somewhere for all moms to read. this will be going on my refrigerator as a reminder to not put so much pressure on myself. this rings true on so many levels and brought tears to my eyes as i nodded in agreement to everything you wrote. thank you for this, for the post, and response!

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  15. I agree so much with Rachel's comment. As an extra bonus, once those babies start sleeping longer...more work time will be had...work will always be there but little tiny babies with cute squishy cheeks wont! Enjoy your weekend!

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  16. i have full faith in you, angela! i'm sure you will be able to find a good balance soon, and so sorry about those medical bills! that really stinks. :(

    p.s. those scissors are awesome.

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  17. having raised twins who are now 19 and in college and living more independently -some sage tips from my very own mother;
    1. work towards never doing what they can do for themselves.
    2. always treat them like they are your babies. (baby)
    3. do something nice for yourself each day, like they say on the plane, administer the oxygen to yourself first.
    4. always put your family first.
    pve

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  18. Sometimes black and white isn't really easy, and this is coming from a person that subconciously thinks in those two shades. Take advantage of the greys :) and good luck!

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  19. Just found your blog and fell in love. Isn't motherhood grand? And with such an artistic and inspiring mama, you and your daughter are bound to have countless adventures together. I'm a stay-at-home mama myself, with TWO beauties to chase, and my heart couldn't be happier. They certainly give me something to write about. :)

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  20. This is very educational content and written well for a change. It's nice to see that some people still understand how to write a quality post.!

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